Last week, I heard a minister say that "God loves life." And given
how strongly the church has argued against abortion, contraception and
gay marriage, this statement appears largely true. This week, a senator
even made the statement to the effect that every incidence of pregnancy,
even those that come from rape and incest, is a gift from God.
Everything the church does seems to promote the idea that everything you
do throughout your life should be helping you to go out and make more
life - and as much of it as you possibly can. The feeling has even
pervaded outside the church, from people asking men and women when
they're going to settle down and start a family, to families that have
boasted 10-12 children. Even in the realm of science, the inarguable
purpose of our evolution seems to be to reproduce. In the old days, it
wasn't uncommon for a man to remarry 3-5 times, each wife giving that
man as many children as she can, from the year she hits puberty to the
year she dies. And in the old days, when famine, disease, poverty, war
and all manner of ills threatened to wipe out entire civilizations at
every turn, this made absolutely perfect sense.
This year, the Earth's population has hit 7 billion. I assume you can
guess where I'm going with this. Human beings have been giving birth
for millenia. And given how many humans there are, we've obviously become remarkably good at it.
Not just us humans, but every animal, plant and microbial life form
today is here because of the miracle of birth. But while I'm not arguing
at just how chemically and genetically improbable and amazing that
birth can even happen at all, I do think it's rather an overstatement to
call birth a "miracle" given how regularly it occurs, and as many
teenagers can attest to, how easy and unexpectedly it can happen. In
fact, with childbirth these days so easy and prevalent, and with the
only thing plummeting faster than death rates being the resources needed
to sustain those not dying, to put childbirth on such a pedestal as to call it a "miracle" is not only shortsighted but foolhardy.
The need to go forth and multiply as it stands now, more than being
non-applicable, is actually counter-productive to the overall health of
the planet we live on. I know the belief of the church is that man has
inherited the Earth to do with as he pleases, but make no mistake, the
Earth will not support us for much longer if we keep devouring resources
like it's going out of fashion.
But that's not even the main reason I'm writing this. Rather, I'm arguing that since the need to constantly, constantly
reproduce no longer applies, at least for the time being, then it the
notion of bearing children no longer takes precedent over human
happiness. A person can afford to not be life-giving in every major decision they make about their lives. It doesn't always, always have to be about making babies all the time. We can actually do things with our baby-making body parts that don't result in a baby. And guess what? The human race won't die off as a result!
The human race as a species will keep on kicking if you decide not to
have children in your lifetime. It will also continue onward if you
decide you want to have safe sex. Other couples will in fact continue to
have children if you should decide you're not ready and want to have an
abortion. And the world will most certainly keep spinning if two people
of the same sex decide to get married. And by the way, how is a gay
couple getting married any different than an infertile couple getting
married, in terms of life-giving relationships? And while we're
pondering that puzzler, consider that if gay couples ever decide to
adopt (and we manage to grow up and stop presuming that gay couples are
unfit parents), how much of a great service they would be doing the
world by providing a loving home to an otherwise forsaken child.
If you do want children, and can safely do so, by all means, have children. But you should, by no means, be required
to do so by your government or your faith! In fact, no matter what your
belief, you should always make the decision to have children with great
prudence, because in case no one told you, a child is an enormous
responsibility. Children come at great pains to the mother, at a great
financial burden to both parents, and if the parents aren't healthy
enough, fit or willing to be good parents, that child runs the enormous
risk of growing up suffering and doomed to go down a troubled and
unfortunate path. There are obviously exceptions to this, but if you
want to gamble your life, your spouse's life, or the life of your child
on those odds, then that's all on your head when you make that decision.
We are human beings! We may not have all the answers, but we're smart
enough to look to the future and realize that if a child is born into a
particular situation, or of a mother who is too young, financially
insecure, or worse, the victim of rape, that either the child, mother or
both will not survive, or worse, be doomed to a life of misery and
hardship, that in situations like these, we have the power and
responsibility to change it.
Because - and please follow me here - there are worse things in this world than not having a baby!
No, we shouldn't all be mandated to suffer or die just to
bring yet another life into being under any circumstance whatsoever. Not
everything is about making babies! There are worse things in this world
than not having a baby! Foster homes and shelters are filled to the
brim with homeless children, and those who don't find homes usually end
up in our prisons. And our prisons have become so full that it's become
profitable to run them like a business! There are worse things in this
world than not having a baby! Food, jobs, land, fuel and many, many
other finite resources are already tapering out! If we bring many more
children into this world, we're only putting more strain on our already
dwindling resources. If we strain them too much more, there will be
nothing left for the children we are so eagerly squirting out. And let's
be clear: I am by no means denouncing childbirth entirely. If you are
healthy, secure and ready to be a parent, then by all means, reproduce
as much as you like! But are under no obligation to do so! There are
worse things in this world than not having a baby!
The world doesn't need another baby right now! The only reason you should be having children is because you
want to! And even if you do, you have options. Adopt! There are
thousands, millions of children already born who need a home! Get
married to the person you love regardless of whether your union can
produce children! And if you don't want children at all, that's fine
too! Have safe sex! Enjoy your life, regardless of whether you're having
kids or not! And if you're not ready for a child and an accident does
happen, you are not obligated to have that child if you have reason to
believe it will ruin your life!
Because, say it with me now: There are worse things in this world than not having a baby!
Here's what confuses me: if God loves life, why would he
require such terrible strains in order to produce it, when we could
easily minimize those strains while maintaining a good balance of life
in equitable conditions? Especially since the whole point of life, after
creating more of it, is to die and go to the afterlife? To me, when
there is not only such little need for prolific propagation of life in
this age, but actual negative consequences to it, the argument to
continue to propagate life sounds likes it's coming from institutions
who stands to profit from such an overabundance of life.
A
prison warden who cares only for lining his pockets for keeping more
and more inmates; a business owner who has to pay his workers less and
less because with all the competition for the jobs he's offering there
will always be someone willing to work for less; political leaders who
earn their votes from an uninformed electorate because our school
systems can't afford to keep up with our surplus of children; our
government who continue to throw more and more soldiers into war as
cannon fodder; and yes, even a church whose uninformed masses continue
to add more and more falsely acclaimed validity to an already overblown
institution. Call me a conspiracy theorist, but this level of atrocity
still seems much more likely than a God who just loves life so much that
he wants us to go to every imaginable length - from repeated painful,
dangerous and possibly lethal childbirths, and the absolute inhibition
of either enjoying sex for its own sake or for spending your life with
your loved one if they happen to have the same parts as you - to have
children just so they can go on and go through the same process, and all
of whom only ever achieve their actual happiness in an afterlife that
nobody can describe.
Which seems more likely to you?
